The Grift

This is a movie that my oldest son played a small part in as a Carney. He was also a production assistant.

It’s a 1940’s period drama about about a woman who has been wronged by her husband, but must help him after he has fallen in with a family of grifters.

http://www.megavideo.com/v/MI3X95Z6464498133850ece084ccce6c7775a033

How do I get my child to listen to me?

Ok, I keep reading all these articles about “How do I get my child to listen to me?” and other things to this same point. I had to raise three children by myself and that was a struggle for me also. They are all grown now and still have sibling rivals now and then but when they were small I came up with a concept that worked for them. My concept may not work for everyone’s children but thought I would share it and maybe it will help someone else.

I was at my wits end and was obsessed with trying to find a way to have my children listen to me and a way to punish them for their wrong doings because I wanted them to be good people when they grew up. I prayed about this everynight for a very long time, I thought about it day and night and then one day I came up with this solution, tried it and it worked.

This solution took me a couple of weeks to get fixed before I could use it and after I started using it, I had to add to it as things happend. But I sit down and started making a list of everything I had to get on to my children for doing, (backtalking, hitting each other, fighting, etc, etc, etc.) I don’t remember what all it was, but I do remember I had a lengthy list of things that three different children got in trouble for doing on a daily basis.

After my list was finished I catagorized all of the bad behaviors into three different catagories. One, not so bad misbehaviors – things that weren’t so bad but things they didn’t want to do but had to do like taking a bath, brushing their teeth, etc., the medium misbehaviours were things that wouldn’t hurt themselves or somebody else, and really bad misbehaviors were things they did that would hurt themselves or someone else.

After sorting thru all the misbehaviors and getting them in the correct three catagories, I rewrote my list of misbehaviors on a piece of poster board. My first catagory was all writen in the same color of marker, my second catagory was written in another color of marker and my last catagory was all written in RED marker. Each catagory was seperated with a black line. I left a large space at the end of the poster board for three pockets across the bottom.

I then measured and cut three pieces of poster board and stapled them to the bottom of my list making three pockets of the same size across the bottom of the list.

I wrote some punishments down myself on a sheet of paper and then I sit down with my children and as I read off each misbehaviour I asked them how they thought they should be punished for doing that. They would tell me a punishment and then if I didn’t think it was harsh enough or if I thought it was to harsh then I would explain to them why it should be more or less of a punishment. We did this with the whole list until we came up with agreeable punishments. They seemed to have fun with it.

When we were done establishing a punishment for each crime. I cut out large tear drop shapes out of constuction paper that coordinated with the three colors I used to write the punishments down with. Then I wrote one punishment on each tear drop and put the tear drops in the matching pockets.

I explained to my kids that everytime they misbehaved they had to check the chart to see which color of tear drop they had to draw out of the pockets for their punishment. When they would misbehave I would just say, “Ok it’s time to go look at the chart and take our punishment.” While using this system they would get mad because they were getting into trouble but they did not throw a fit like they did before. They would pull their tear drop out and were anxious to see what the punishment was and then would cry because they had the punishment but would take the punishment without throwing a fit. It was really a great experience to not have to argue with them anymore.

THE OTHER HALF OF THIS SYSTEM

The other half of this system that I think helped it work was our star charts. I made a chore chart for each child with age appropriate chores including brushing teeth, taking baths, getting dressed, putting your shoes on, making your bed (which consists of just throwing a comforter on the bed as best as they could), doing your homework, not hitting anyone, not yelling at anyone, practically everything that was on the tear drop chart. At the end of the day they got to put a star or somekind of sticker on each thing that they did good. At the end of every three days they would get some kind of reward depending on the number of stars or stickers they had. The more stars and stickers the better the reward. I had to set up rewards like I did the punishments. Rewards would be money, or me doing something with them that I hadn’t had time to do, or small things I had collected in a box and saved for rewards. Anything they liked would work.

LONG TERM REWARDS

For long time things, like if they wanted to see a movie, go skating with some friends, or go see a movie at the theater or what ever it might be we made up contracts. On a plain piece of paper, I would write what they wanted to do and what they had to do to earn it. The dates of the time limit and we would both sign it. If you do this one, you have to be reasonable about the time limit. You have to make things doable for your child. If you know your child has bad anxieties and then you have the agreement to last for way longer than you know that they can wait, that is not fair to your child and the contracts are not going to work. If you know your child can wait for something a week then a week is a good timeline but if you know in your heart that your child will start getting anxieties about the contract going on the second day of making it then start out making the contracts for just two days and then if this goes well after a few times try to extend the contract to three days. Please don’t set them up for failure or nothing will work.

I am no expert on children and don’t claim to be. This is just an idea for you, if you are having troubles with your children listening and throwing fits and is just something I done myself about 20 years ago.

HANDY DANDY TIPS

I got this in an email and thought it was worth sharing. It has some really good tips in it, especially for this winter.

 

For icy door steps in freezing temperatures: Get warm water and put Dawn dish washing liquid in it. Pour it all over the steps. They won’t refreeze.  [This would probably work on your windshield too if your auto is out in the open. I haven’t tried it yet.]   
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To remove old wax from a glass candle holder – Put it in the freezer for a few hours. Then take the candle holder out and turn it upside down. The wax will fall out.
============ ========= =======         Crayon marks on walls? This works wonderfully! Use a damp rag, dipped in baking soda. Comes off with little    
effort (elbow grease, that is!).
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Permanent marker on appliances/counter tops (like store receipt BLUE!) – Put rubbing alcohol on paper towel.
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Whenever you purchase a box of S.O.S pads, immediately take a pair of scissors and cut each pad into half.  
It is more economical. A box of S.O.S pads will last indefinitely! In fact, the scissors get “sharpened” that way!
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Blood stains on clothes? Not to worry! Just pour a little hydrogen peroxide on a cloth and proceed to wipe off  every drop of blood. Works every time! 
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Use vertical strokes when washing windows outside and horizontal for inside windows. Then you can tell which side has the streaks. Straight vinegar will get outside windows really clean. Don’t wash windows on a sunny day.. They will dry too quickly and will probably streak.
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Spray a bit of perfume on the light bulb in any room to create a lovely light scent in each room when the light is turned on. 
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Place fabric softener sheets in dresser drawers and your clothes will smell freshly washed for weeks to come. You can also do this with towels and linen.
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Candles will last a lot longer if placed in the freezer for at least 3 hours prior to burning.
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To clean artificial flowers, pour some salt into a paper bag and add the flowers. Shake vigorously as the salt will absorb all the dust and dirt and leave your artificial flowers looking like new! Works like a charm!
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To easily remove burnt on food from your skillet, simply add a drop or two of dish soap and enough water to cover bottom of pan. Bring to a boil on stove top.
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Spray your TUPPERWARE with nonstick cooking spray before pouring in tomato based sauces.. No stains.
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Wrap celery in aluminum foil when putting in the refrigerator and it will keep for weeks.
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When boiling corn on the cob, add a pinch of sugar to help bring out the corn’s natural sweetness.
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Cure for headaches: Take a lime, cut it in half, and rub it on your forehead. The throbbing will go away.
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To get rid of itch from mosquito bites, try applying soap on the area and you will experience instant relief.
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Ants, ants, ants everywhere . Well, they are said to never cross a chalk line. So, get your chalk out and draw a line on the floor or wherever ants tend to march.. See for yourself.
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Use air-freshener to clean mirrors. It does a good job and better still, leaves a lovely smell to the shine. 
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When you get a splinter, reach for the scotch tape before resorting to tweezers or a needle. Simply put the scotch tape over the splinter, and then pull it off. Scotch tape removes most splinters painlessly and easily.
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Now look what you can do with Alka Seltzer….. … Clean a toilet. Drop in two Alka Seltzer tablets, wait twenty minutes, brush and flush. The citric acid and effervescent action clean vitreous china.
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Clean a vase.
To remove a stain from the bottom of a glass vase or cruet, fill with water and drop in two Alka Seltzer tablets.
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Polish jewelry.
Drop two Alka Seltzer tablets into a glass of water and immerse the jewelry for two minutes.
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Clean a thermos bottle.
Fill the bottle with water, drop in four Alka Seltzer tablets, and let soak for an hour (or longer, if necessary).
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Unclog a drain.
Clear the sink drain by dropping three Alka Seltzer tablets down the drain followed by a cup of Heinz White Vinegar. Wait a few minutes and then run the hot water.

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Burn your fingers?  
Pour soy sauce over it and the burning sensation will immediately stop (and you have a good chance  of not blistering, too.) I don’t know why, but it just works.  
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Do your friends a favor. Pass this timely information on to a friend!  I just did.

Look what Xerox is doing for our Soldiers!!

XEROX IS DOING SOMETHING COOL

If you go to this web site, www.LetsSayThanks.com you can pick out a thank you card and Xerox will print it and it will be sent to a soldier that is currently serving in Iraq . You can’t pick out who gets it, but it will go to a member of the armed services.
How AMAZING it would be if we could get everyone we know to send one!!! It is FREE and it only takes a second.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the soldiers received a bunch of these? Whether you are for or against the war, our soldiers over there need to know we are behind them.
This takes just 10 seconds and it’s a wonderful way to say thank you. Please take the time and please take the time to pass it on for others to do. We can never say enough thank you’s.
Thanks for taking to time to support our military!

Christmas Rebates

It’s Time For Christmas!! SAVE Money at 1000+ Stores you already shop at already, by recieving REBATES on EVERY PURCHASE you make, or on any purchase that anyone else makes, in YOUR own Power Mall.

SAVE money on gas, your vehicle and your time. CLICK HERE. For Individuals, Business Owners and Non-Profit Organizations.

You DO NOT have to get a World Changer Mall for $15.95 per month. You can get a FREE Personal or Business Mall.

All you do is:

1. Log in to the “Administration Login”. This will take you to your home page.

2. You can type in what item you are wanting to shop for in the search bar for a product search, OR

3. Click on the “Hot Deals” button, which will take you straight to exclusive great buys, OR

4. Scroll down to the “Directory Search” and click on the departments of your choice, OR

You will find departments for:

Automotive, Beauty & Frangrances, Books/CD/DVD/Misc., Business/Office/Career, Clothing/Accessories, Computers/Electronics, Education & Family, Financial Services, Food & Drink, Heath & Personal Care, Home Living & Garden, Pets & Supplies, Speciality/Dept/Gift Stores, Sports & Fitness, Telecommunications, Travel, Web Services.

5. Type in what store you want to shop at in the “Pick A Store” search bar, OR

In the top TOOL BAR:

6. Click on your “Shopping List” tab,

7. Click on “Brand Name Stores” tab,

8. Click on “Business Needs Stores” tab,

9. Click on “Personal Needs Stores” tab,

10. Click on “Favorite Stores” tab and more.

You can CHECK OUT THE MALL by clicking here and then on “The Mall” in the top tool bar. Scroll down to middle of page and click on the BLUE banner that reads “Click Here To Visit My Power Mall”. On this page you can experience and see everything that I have described above and experience shopping at My Power Mall.

Clik HERE to get YOUR OWN POWER MALL

so YOU can

GET A REBATE FOR EACH PURCHASE YOU MAKE!!

Living On A Dime

I personally use Menu’s On A Dime and Not Just Beans Cook Book and don’t know what I would do with out them.  Instead of Not Just Beans there is now Dining On A Dime which is packed with even more goodies than before.  

Save $10,000 a year on food? Without cutting coupons! Unbelievable? Read Tawra Jean Kellam and Jill Cooper’s advice in their book: Dining on a Dime (formerly Not Just Beans) and find out that it really is possible.

Tawra has told her story to millions of listeners and readers on the radio, on the web and in women’s magazines (including Woman’s Day and Woman’s World) and now she’s put her best tips and tricks into a 476 page book. Using these tips and suggestions, Tawra shows how anyone can tighten his or her food budget.

Dining on a Dime is packed with over 1,200 money saving recipes and tips, kids tips and snack ideas, gift baskets, menus, food storage directions, Cleaning Cents and Pretty for Pennies. The recipes are easy to cook with ingredients that you probably already have in your pantry. To make shopping easy and economical, Tawra has also included a pantry list and a shopping list.

  • Did you know that dirty dishes cause debt? See page 385 and read how to save money just by doing the dishes.
  • Need fast snack ideas for hungry kids? Check out page 28.
  • Want to clean your bathroom in a flash? Check out page 398 for a 7-step plan.
  • Got leftovers in the fridge? Use them up!!! Dining on a Dime has a complete index of recipes using nothing but leftovers.
  • Drive right by the pricey gift basket boutique– Go home and make your own for pennies. Check out page 339 for ideas!
  • Need to cut down on meat? Tawra has pages of tips for eating better and spending less.
  • Need a specific money saving idea? Dining on a Dime has a special index just for tips.
  • Make three meals from one chicken? Yes, Dining on a Dime has this, too! (Page 176)

 

How To Install A Home Security System In The South!!

I got this in an email today from one of my cousins and thought I would post it here. 

How To Install A Home Security System In The  South
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1. Go to a second-hand store and buy a pair of men’s used  size
14-16 work boots.

2. Place  them on your front porch, along with a copy of Guns
and  Ammo Magazine.

3. Put a few giant dog dishes next to  the boots and magazines.

4. Leave a note on your door  that reads:

Hey Bubba, Me, Big Jim, Duke and Slim went  for more ammunition.
Back in an hour. Don’t mess with the pit  bulls – they attacked
the mailman this morning and messed him up  real bad. I don’t
think Killer took part in it but it was hard to  tell from all
the blood. Anyway, I locked all four of ’em in the  house.
Better wait outside.

“Cooter”

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