The Grift

This is a movie that my oldest son played a small part in as a Carney. He was also a production assistant.

It’s a 1940’s period drama about about a woman who has been wronged by her husband, but must help him after he has fallen in with a family of grifters.

http://www.megavideo.com/v/MI3X95Z6464498133850ece084ccce6c7775a033

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How do I get my child to listen to me?

Ok, I keep reading all these articles about “How do I get my child to listen to me?” and other things to this same point. I had to raise three children by myself and that was a struggle for me also. They are all grown now and still have sibling rivals now and then but when they were small I came up with a concept that worked for them. My concept may not work for everyone’s children but thought I would share it and maybe it will help someone else.

I was at my wits end and was obsessed with trying to find a way to have my children listen to me and a way to punish them for their wrong doings because I wanted them to be good people when they grew up. I prayed about this everynight for a very long time, I thought about it day and night and then one day I came up with this solution, tried it and it worked.

This solution took me a couple of weeks to get fixed before I could use it and after I started using it, I had to add to it as things happend. But I sit down and started making a list of everything I had to get on to my children for doing, (backtalking, hitting each other, fighting, etc, etc, etc.) I don’t remember what all it was, but I do remember I had a lengthy list of things that three different children got in trouble for doing on a daily basis.

After my list was finished I catagorized all of the bad behaviors into three different catagories. One, not so bad misbehaviors – things that weren’t so bad but things they didn’t want to do but had to do like taking a bath, brushing their teeth, etc., the medium misbehaviours were things that wouldn’t hurt themselves or somebody else, and really bad misbehaviors were things they did that would hurt themselves or someone else.

After sorting thru all the misbehaviors and getting them in the correct three catagories, I rewrote my list of misbehaviors on a piece of poster board. My first catagory was all writen in the same color of marker, my second catagory was written in another color of marker and my last catagory was all written in RED marker. Each catagory was seperated with a black line. I left a large space at the end of the poster board for three pockets across the bottom.

I then measured and cut three pieces of poster board and stapled them to the bottom of my list making three pockets of the same size across the bottom of the list.

I wrote some punishments down myself on a sheet of paper and then I sit down with my children and as I read off each misbehaviour I asked them how they thought they should be punished for doing that. They would tell me a punishment and then if I didn’t think it was harsh enough or if I thought it was to harsh then I would explain to them why it should be more or less of a punishment. We did this with the whole list until we came up with agreeable punishments. They seemed to have fun with it.

When we were done establishing a punishment for each crime. I cut out large tear drop shapes out of constuction paper that coordinated with the three colors I used to write the punishments down with. Then I wrote one punishment on each tear drop and put the tear drops in the matching pockets.

I explained to my kids that everytime they misbehaved they had to check the chart to see which color of tear drop they had to draw out of the pockets for their punishment. When they would misbehave I would just say, “Ok it’s time to go look at the chart and take our punishment.” While using this system they would get mad because they were getting into trouble but they did not throw a fit like they did before. They would pull their tear drop out and were anxious to see what the punishment was and then would cry because they had the punishment but would take the punishment without throwing a fit. It was really a great experience to not have to argue with them anymore.

THE OTHER HALF OF THIS SYSTEM

The other half of this system that I think helped it work was our star charts. I made a chore chart for each child with age appropriate chores including brushing teeth, taking baths, getting dressed, putting your shoes on, making your bed (which consists of just throwing a comforter on the bed as best as they could), doing your homework, not hitting anyone, not yelling at anyone, practically everything that was on the tear drop chart. At the end of the day they got to put a star or somekind of sticker on each thing that they did good. At the end of every three days they would get some kind of reward depending on the number of stars or stickers they had. The more stars and stickers the better the reward. I had to set up rewards like I did the punishments. Rewards would be money, or me doing something with them that I hadn’t had time to do, or small things I had collected in a box and saved for rewards. Anything they liked would work.

LONG TERM REWARDS

For long time things, like if they wanted to see a movie, go skating with some friends, or go see a movie at the theater or what ever it might be we made up contracts. On a plain piece of paper, I would write what they wanted to do and what they had to do to earn it. The dates of the time limit and we would both sign it. If you do this one, you have to be reasonable about the time limit. You have to make things doable for your child. If you know your child has bad anxieties and then you have the agreement to last for way longer than you know that they can wait, that is not fair to your child and the contracts are not going to work. If you know your child can wait for something a week then a week is a good timeline but if you know in your heart that your child will start getting anxieties about the contract going on the second day of making it then start out making the contracts for just two days and then if this goes well after a few times try to extend the contract to three days. Please don’t set them up for failure or nothing will work.

I am no expert on children and don’t claim to be. This is just an idea for you, if you are having troubles with your children listening and throwing fits and is just something I done myself about 20 years ago.

Mom

Below is a page of my mom’s old photo’s that I have done for my family tree book.  The youngest photo of her was taken when she was three years old.  The school photo was taken when she was around nine years old.  The dress that she has on in the school photo was made by my grandma, my mom’s mother.  The oldest photo of my mom was made when she was sixteen years old right before she married my dad.  When my mom was little she called her mama, mama and also called her grandma mama.  So someone told her to call her real mama, Mother and her grandma, mama.  So that’s what she always called them Mother and mama until she got older and then it was Mother and Grandma.  For scrapping the page I used:

“Inherit Blessing” kit by Creative Victorian Designs.

Fonts used are Estrangelo Edessa and French Script.

Mom
Mom

My latest lo made from “Old Schooldays” by Attic Treasures

This is my latest lo that I made using Attic Treasures Old Schooldays kit.  I love all the elements in this kit and the papers.  I’m not very good at making these lo’s yet but was satisfied with this one.  I made my first frame ever, on Photo Shop 7.0 that my son gave me, for this lo from Anneli’s chalk board that was in her Old Schooldays kit. I hope this was acceptable.
School Photo of my grandma Savage and her siblings

School Photo of my grandma Savage and her siblings

Design credits:
“Old School Days” Scrapkit & “Book frames” by Attic Treasures, frame by MeeGee Designs “Vintage Frames”, School photo from Grandma, Small photos cropped from school photo, font by myself on my own chalkboard and scanned & calibri using wordart styles, (made photo frame from Attic Treasures chalk board from Old School Days for my scanned chalk board).

My Genealogy Book

I wanted this blog as a diary for my scrapbooking but am so scatter brained that I can’t remember to post everything like I wanted to. Maybe one day I will get caught up. I still have more blinkies that I’ve collected to put on here and am still not happy with my site. I start working on it and then remember something else I was suppose to do or get disgusted because I can’t do something right so I go to something else.

I have finally got done the first three pages of my genealogy book that I have been wanting to do for so long. I’m just not good at putting these layouts together and want them to be something that I am absolutely happy with before I use them in my book. So these three pages I am very happy with. I will share two of them here but one of them has to much personal info on it so I choose not to download it on my blog. But I think it turned out great.

This is the first page of my Dad’s tribute. It was done with a Scrapbook kit called “My Dad” by Ashalee Wall of Ashaleeandsweet.com.

This is the second page of Dad’s tribute. It was done by the same Scrapbook kit “My Dad” by Ashalee Wall of Ashaleeandsweet.com but I added a frame, ribbon and flowers from the DAC Collab Team and staples by Lynn Griffin.

Easter Layout


This is a layout I done using Creative Victorian Designs Easter Lovely background and Inherit Blessings frame, Boolands Granddad Overlay, Laura’s DigiWorld Background, Carena’s wordart. The photo is of my mom, sister and myself on Easter Sunday in 1969. I was five years old and just got my first pair of pantyhose and my first itty bitty heels. lol

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